Learning from resolutions

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The new year is finally here. Like every year, most people make New Year’s resolutions.

I’m very indecisive about resolutions because they either are successful or end up failing as time goes by. I usually don’t make resolutions, I tend to walk on the safe side and try to avoid them. But maybe this year, I will try something different and make a resolution or some kind of a change. In the past, I admit, I made resolutions. When I was younger I made a resolution to be nice to both of my sisters. That lasted maybe one or two days because there is no way you can go a day without fighting with your siblings, especially if you are the middle child like me.

As I got older, I took my resolutions more seriously because I thought maybe they would be more successful than to try and be nice to my sisters. But every year, people all around the world make resolutions for the new year such as losing weight, or giving something up like an addiction to create a better lifestyle. People also make resolutions about eating healthy, working out, not to smoke or drink, or even giving up or having less of chocolates or sweets by eating some of that only once a week or once a month because it’s bad for you.

I am a chocolate addict, and I don’t know if I could do that. For me, chocolate makes the world go round and giving that up means that my world will stop!

Two years ago, as a senior in college at the University of New Mexico, my New Year’s resolution was to say hello to at least one person on the South Lot shuttle on my way to class. College was so much fun — I actually don’t know why I thought this was a good resolution. However, in college everyone is in their own world and doesn’t like to be bothered, or don’t like meeting new people, which I think is ridiculous. I figured I could meet new people. During that time I said hello to people, maybe at least two people started a conversation with me instead of just saying hello back. During this time, I would also go to the Student Union Building and sit at a table with a person who was sitting by themselves doing homework or even eating alone. It was like it was middle school again — I would try to be friendly to them by striking up a conversation. Some would actually talk, but others would just say hi — or eventually get up and walk away. With this new year’s resolution I noticed people aren’t always friendly and looked at me like I was crazy for saying hello. I ended up stopping that resolution in March because after a while, people wouldn’t say hi back or they would ignore me. But I made it that far and said hello to more than 80 people within those three months.

This year, I am thinking about resolutions again, but not to make sure that what I start at the beginning of the year follows through. I want to make a resolution and make some changes. With changes, I could try to meet new people again, but since I rarely go out it could be at the gym. But at the gym, people tend to keep to themselves. Or a resolution could be to smile more. I could also resolve to wake up when my alarm goes off instead of going back to sleep after I turn it off before going under covers again. Other changes I have in mind are to be more friendly to others.

All I can say is I hope 2013 is a better year than last. I strongly dislike even years because there is always something weird or bad that happens. But like all years, they tend to go by really fast, and before you know it, 2014 is right around the corner.

But let’s be more serious. I can smile and be nice to people, but really my resolution this year is to start typing up my first novel so I can get it published before I turn 30. It’s hard to write when there is so much to do and you don’t have enough time.

I will definitely try to type up my first novel, which is already written by hand. Who knows how long that will take? This year I will also continue with my sixth novel by hand. This will be a challenge, but isn’t that the point of a resolution? To challenge yourself and see if you could actually do what you promised yourself to do at the beginning of the year and see if it actually goes through until the very end? I think this year will be successful with some good changes, I hope. But I look forward to every day of 2013. Even though there will be changes in 2013, I know this year will be better than last because there is always something to look forward to.