Valentine’s Day: Is it worth waiting for?
Valentine’s Day is tomorrow and is known as the most loved holiday by couples everywhere.
There is a story behind Valentine’s Day, but I also have a story. First of all, those people who have a sweetheart are used to receiving special gifts such as chocolates, flowers, stuffed animals and the elegant dinners that represent what Valentine’s Day is about. It’s what couples expect every year.
I could buy all of that on my own — if I wanted — because no one ever offered. Valentine’s Day is a great day for those who have a special someone. What about those of us who don’t? What does this day really mean, and what is all the big fuss about? What about the rest of the year? Some people make it clear that being with someone and receiving gifts shouldn’t be on just one day, it should be forever and always, every day of the year.
OK, I don’t mean to be a Debbie Downer, but singles who don’t get gifts or special attention or treats on this day from that special someone still do get them from everyday friends.
However, this shouldn’t stop us from having a good time. Valentine’s Day is special and you can spend it with friends or even overdose on chocolate and watch chick flicks alone or with other singles to make the day so much better.
I live in Albuquerque, and if you plan to eat at any elegant restaurant you better have made reservations at least a month in advance. If not, you are stuck with your sweetheart at home with some wine and perhaps a movie, but there isn’t anything wrong with that. I don’t think so. A crowd can be too much sometimes.
The history of Valentine’s Day begins with the Catholic tradition of the patron Saint Valentine. According to history.com, the Catholic Church has three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus who were martyred.
One Valentine served as a priest who married people in secret when Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than a married man with a family. When Claudius II found out that Valentine was performing marriages behind his back, Valentine was put to death by the emperor himself.
Aside from history, it’s time to announce I like someone. It is always good to like someone, or like multiple people at the same time because that means you won’t get hurt. Nowadays, there are people who get hurt or feel like they will get hurt, especially on Valentine’s Day. No one is real anymore; it’s the way things are.
As a middle child, I am used to both my sisters spending Valentine’s Day with their boyfriends. It appears men these days are lazy, I give up. As for me, I spend it with my best friend of 11 years, Adrianne. She and I joke about teaching a class to men on how to approach women and how to ask them out. Any guy who is afraid should just do it. I mean, why would someone turn you down? Before it gets really complicated, let’s go back in time and talk chivalry.
In the past, men were the ones who initiated the first move and asked a lady out. She always accepted the invitation if she really liked the guy or thought he was handsome. If the date went well, he would ask her out again on another date. Eventually, after the more dates they went on, he would ask her to be his girlfriend. He would pay for everything. Send her flowers just because, and maybe write a love note.
I’m telling you this guy does not exist today — only in the 1950s to 1970s, I assume. I wish it was the same today; these guys have suddenly become extinct. Nowadays, it is the complete opposite: The girl is expected to talk to the guy first, ask him to hang out, and sometimes even the bill is split. I admit I have been a brave soul and have asked a few guys out before. Never has a guy asked me out in person, not once. Why is that? Are guys scared or are they just lazy?
Time has really changed things around over the years. I’m not saying women are perfect, because some women can be really mean, but maybe men don’t like commitment, or they love their freedom. Maybe, as anyone’s old excuse, the guy is too “busy” to be involved with someone they like. I have all these questions and will never get answers.
These days, it’s rare that the guy picks up the girl in his car and meets her parents or initiates a time and a place for them to meet. I won’t hate on guys — they get nervous and women don’t? All I can say is that I am really disappointed. Just saying. I would be thrilled if one of these guys still exists today! It would actually be some kind of a miracle. Everyone is afraid of rejection, move on to the next one. Not every girl is the same and will turn you down fellas. Who knows, maybe she feels the same way as you do. I don’t know anymore about Valentine’s Day or how couples end up together if the guy expects the girl to do all the work. I say no way, get some courage and just ask! What do you have to lose?