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Dear Sammy 12/25
Dear Sammy,
Every year, my family gathers for the holidays, and it’s usually a joyful time. This year, however, my sister announced she’s bringing her new boyfriend, someone none of us have met, and she expects him to stay in my home for the entire week. I barely have enough space for my own family, and I’m uncomfortable hosting a stranger for that long. I don’t want to cause tension, but I also don’t want to feel resentful in my own home. How can I set boundaries without ruining the holiday spirit?
— Host Under Pressure
Dear Host,
You set the rules! If you're uncomfortable with a stranger in your home, you have every right to express that and politely decline his stay. Your sister should have introduced him to you before asking him to stay in your home. There are plenty of hotels in town where they can stay for the holiday. We suggest they start booking a room before the prices rocket for Christmas travel.
Dear Sammy,
I’ve been chatting with someone online for months, and we really seem to click. We share similar interests, have great conversations, and even talk about meeting in person. The problem is, every time we make plans, they cancel at the last minute with vague excuses. I’m starting to wonder if they’re truly interested or just enjoy the attention. Should I keep trying, confront them about it, or move on? I’m tired of feeling like I’m waiting for something that may never happen.
— Frustrated Online
Dear frustrated Online,
It sounds like this person isn't truly interested or respectful of your time. If you really want their company and hope that things progress, you should absolutely talk to them about how their cancellations and lack of effort are making you feel. If not, it may be best to move on. The road, phone, and mail service works both ways!
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