Dear Sammy

Dear Sammy,

How do I tell my adult child that he’s making bad decisions without him getting angry or disregarding anything I say? He’s running around with ... lately and says they’re all just his friends, but I feel like they’re more than that, and I am worried that they might result in chaotic relationships or even precious babies when he’s not really interested in a family life right now. He’s only 20, and his father isn’t going to say anything because that’s just not his way. Should I be upfront and blunt, throw it out there casually, or not say anything at all??? He’s a jokester and usually pretty sweet, but I haven’t had to confront him like this before. Please help. Sincerely, Worried Mama

Dear Worried Mama,

Have a sit-down talk with your son about responsibilities and consequences. Be cautious, and tailor the conversation to how you think he will be the most comfortable. After all, you know him best. Be cautious, he won’t like having this hard conversation, but you can feel at peace knowing you tried. This is a case of tough love, be understanding and listen while also giving your concerns about his future.

Dear Sammy,

If you could go back in time and give advice to your younger self, what would it be?

Sincerely, life learner

Dear Life Learner,

-You are more capable than you know, and many people are less capable than you think.

-Remember to put yourself first sometimes; you matter.

-Watch your finances, but don’t be afraid to spend on leisure every once in a while.

-Take opportunities that come up, no matter the circumstance. You never want to say you missed out on something.

-Always remind your loved ones that you care about them, especially when you’re mad.

-Take advice even when you don’t agree with it, “you’ll never know if you don’t try”.

-Embrace your interests and passions; they will carry you through life and provide you with peace.

-It’s okay if things don’t work out; there’s always a greater plan.

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